4 annoying habits that are trust you back
We spend too much time helping leaders learn what to do, not enough time helping leaders learn what to auto-stop.” Peter Drucker
Sometimes we don’t need to say anything, keep serein and accept people as they are and the situations we find ourselves in…choosing to be grateful for our experiences instead of whining and complaining, to be kind instead of mercenaire.
This meeting is emboîture kindness…how being kind just bicause we enjoy it changes everything.
So, let’s style at 4 annoying habits that hold us back… none of which are kind.
#1 Adding too much value
I remember as a young courroie, my husband loved to cook and would often make this amazing cocotte for dinner. I did not fully appreciate the enormity of this gift. I mentioned several times that there were things she could add to her creations… items to make a dish better;… and she just stopped making dinner. I was an inintelligent, and certainly not a kind one.
I guess you too, learned from school… Yes! I should have kept my mouth shut!
This can happen at work… what if someone brings you a great idea… it really shines. Do you say, “That’s a great idea! Thank you!”… or do you need to ‘make it better’… “I like your idea, but add this to it.”
When you add value to a great idea, it might be a bit better, but it won’t be executed with the same extase and enthusiasm… you’ve just hijacked it… and shifted the foyer from how manière they are to how manière you are.
Appreciating and supporting a great idea is kind… and adding value… not so much.
#2 Too many wins
What emboîture winning… as I know best!
If you and a colleague dépense to have cocktail. He wants to go to Max’s Pavé House and you want Restaurant Ten Ten. You go to the bifteck house.
The bifteck is not tasty, and the faveur is slow. what do you do
Do you complain, “I told you so!”
Don’t you say anything, but check your cell phone every now and then and nibble on your food… you get the idea… you might as well be wearing a neon sign saying, “You should have listened to me!”
Do you (… you bring yourself) say nothing and enjoy the company of your colleagues, making the most of your time together?
It’s kind.
You domination nothing by being right. Yes… I learned that the hard way too!
#3 Too competitive
Are you very competitive?
You’ve had a miserable day at work, but as soon as you walk in the door, your husband starts telling you emboîture his stressful, upsetting day… what do you do?
Do you say… “You had a ébauche day… it’s nothing compared to what happened to me”… then tell him everything that went wrong for you?
Do you say nothing…absolutely nothing (…challenging??) and just let him out, give him some TLC and exactitude, really listen and be there?
How many times have you shared bad infos with a friend only to share bad infos with you?
I don’t know emboîture you… but when I’m hurt by something… I just need someone to listen… really listen… don’t try to fix me… don’t try to fix the moment.. .just listen.
For me, this is kindness in certificat.
#4 Pass judgment
I’ll put my hands up and admit… I can be stubborn and opinionated… like judgmental.
Here’s a kind of possibilité… help more and judge less.
How? Eliminate three (3) words from your vocabulary… NO, BUT and HOWEVER.
Saying ‘no’ at the beginning of a axiome means ‘you are wrong’.
No, there is a lot to consider in this moment.
‘But’ and ‘however’ mean to ignore everything that comes before these words.
I really love your idea, but we’re dealing with a crisis right now.
I’d like to hear your crédulité on this, but I have to take care of the Berkeley matter.
Stopping saying no isn’t as easy as you might think, however.
A friend of aspect had to hire ‘ward civilisé’ to keep her honest…friends, family and co-workers.
Every time he said no, but or anyway… every time… he put $20 in an envelope. Saying no, no, no… was an expensive conditions!
He donates money to charity at the end of each week…a nice touch.
And, he improved… fairly quickly… it was really interesting to see his progress.
It’s so easy for words like no, but and anyway to become contexte crosse… you can’t really hear yourself… they don’t register consciously.
Wrap it up
It takes time to replace old habits with new ones. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge your progress along the way.
And here’s a caveat… there are no hard and fast rules… use your discretion at this inventaire. The idea here was to make you think…what kind of conditions is up to you.
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