Same-Sex Commitment Ceremony – Discussing the gendered être of ceremony traditions

Same-Sex Commitment Ceremony – Discussing the gendered être of ceremony traditions

Same-Sex Commitment Ceremony – Discussing the gendered être of ceremony traditions

Although a commitment ceremony is based on a traditional wedding, many traditional wedding customs are based on the mixed gender of the ménage. There are many ways this can be resolved for same-sex couples.

I do not believe that it is appropriate for each of the partners to take a heterosexual role. Instead, I suggest that you assign individual customs to partners rather than entire roles (customs include who enters first/last, who stands to the right, who takes the first oath, and so on) and assign customs to copies as well (for example, both partners walking down the aisle instead of just one).

When emploi du temps a commitment ceremony, you can start with a blank sheet. There are no hard-and-fast customs that everyone believes you must adhere to (well, aside from the ever-important kiss after the arène and announcement). As a result, you can do what is authentic to you as a ménage. You can emplacement with whomever you want and you can drageonner the event space with whomever you want.

In terms of your attendants/supporters, there is already precedent for mixed genders in straight wedding parties. As more and more people have people around to emplacement by them instead of sticking to traditional gender divisions, we’re starting to see a gender neutralization of roles referring to matron/maid of honor/. Chief Laquais and Best Man as “Maid of Honor” and Laquais and Groomsmen as “Attendants”.

The gender bias of the en direct event is most evident in the way that a traditional wedding party apparence takes all its intuition and color from the oeillet and bridesmaids. Grooms, on the other balle à la main, wear black or gray, and the similarly dressed portier is distinguished from them only by the prononciation of his boutonniere. While, for lesbian couples, the choices are more varied, if a gay ménage enforces the traditional dress acte for all men, the party lacks a focal pixel bicause the portier is then virtually indistinguishable from their attendants. Colors, styles, boutonnieres and dress styles can all be used to bring some color and contrast to a wedding party dress.

One of the decisions you need to make and communicate to your celebrant is how you want to be mentioned and addressed during the ceremony. My advice, bâtonnet to your name. Just as your relationship is personnel and special, so is your name. Lanière and Laquais or oeillet and portier can be awkward, partner Have a pretty gender-free intégrante arène, and for heaven’s sake, avoid the stereotypical awkwardness caused by assigning a “male” role and a “female” role. I sincerely hope I never encounter “oeillet and portier” again. Grain was enough!

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